Harvard psychologist RichardWeissbourd argues incisively that parents-not peers, not television-are the primary shapers of their children''s moral lives. And yet, it is parents'' lack of self-awareness and confused priorities that are dangerously undermining children''s development.Through the author''s own original field research, including hundreds of rich, revealing conversations with children, parents, teachers, and coaches, a surprising picture emerges.Parents'' intense focus on their children''s happiness is turning many children into self-involved, fragile conformists.The suddenly widespread desire of parents to be closer to their children-a heartening trend in many ways-often undercuts kids''morality.Our fixation with being great parents-and our need for our children to reflect that greatness-can actually make them feel ashamed for failing to measure up. Finally, parents'' interactions with coaches and teachers-and coaches'' and teachers'' interactions with children-are critical arenas for nurturing, or eroding, children''s moral lives.Weissbourd''s ultimately compassionate message-based on compelling new research-is that the intense, crisis-filled, and profoundly joyous process of raising a child can be a powerful force for our own moral development.
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