Eliot Green is turning 13 and about to undergo one of the great rituals of Judaism: the Bar Mitzvah when a boy becomes a man and the party that celebrates it is the event of a lifetime. To Eliot’s mother Rita it’s a grand stage on which to present the accomplishments of her family to a waiting world. To her husband Victor it’s an expensive party getting more expensive every day. To Lesley his sister it means endless responsibility and pouring oil like a troubled daught..